So, if you want to recover the purity you had but lost to sin, and if you wish to gain a well-being pain can’t puncture, choose this path. Do the work patiently. Accept its pain, whoever you are, whether you’ve led a life of sin or not.
It’s hard for everyone. Both sinners and those innocent of huge sins find it tough going, but it’s much harder for the person accustomed to sinning, which only makes sense.
However, don’t be surprised if sometimes those we consider the “worst” sinners—I mean people who’ve done horrible things—advance more quickly in this work than those we regard as relatively “innocent.” These are merciful miracles of our Lord. God is generous with this grace, and the world looks on, astonished. I sincerely believe that Judgment Day will be bright, because we’ll clearly see God and all of his gifts. On that day of ultimate truth, many of the “nobodies” of this world, now despise and neglected as lowlifes and hardened sinners, will claim their right to sit besides God’s saints in God’s sight. On the other hand, some who now seem so holy, and who are honored as if they were angels, and who perhaps never did commit a deadly sin, may find themselves sitting beside hell’s devils in complete misery.
My point is—don’t judge. No person on earth should be judged by another. Nobody can say whether what someone else does is “good” or “evil.” That said, yes, you can scrutinize a person’s actions, weigh them in your mind, and determine whether the deeds themselves are good or evil, but you cannot judge the person.
So—I ask you—who can judge another’s actions? Those invested with authority to care for others’ souls, and this authority can be granted publicly by the command and ordination of the Holy Church or privately by the Holy Spirit, who may inspire a person to shoulder this responsibility in a loving, mature way. We all need a reminder here, however. Never casually assume that you’re meant to take on this power. Don’t rush to judge anyone’s mistakes and don’t be a faultfinder. Only speak out if you feel the nudge of the Holy Spirit during contemplative prayer. Those who arrogate this responsibility to themselves find it’s terribly easy for things to go wrong. So beware of that. Judge yourself as you want—that’s between you and God or your spiritual director—but leave others alone.